Getting Comfortable with the Uncomfortable
Every emotion carries with it a lesson, a story, a thread of wisdom.
But if we fear the negative and cling to the positive, we become a slave to our emotions. When the truth is, both are equally important and capable of opening us to ourselves and leading us along our path.
Negative emotions may not be as fun to sit with, but they carry a beauty and a wisdom all their own. They can be our greatest teachers if we let them, always revealing where there is something unhealed within us. If we push them away because they are unpleasant, we deny ourselves the opportunity to heal whatever lingering pain is pulling us out of alignment.
What’s more, at the end of the day, our attempts to get rid of them are never really successful. When we push down or gloss over parts of ourselves that are hurting, they tend to only cry louder for our attention.
So instead of avoiding the negative the next time it rolls around, see how your experience would change if you welcome it as an opportunity to open to yourself more fully, to honor the message it brings and bring healing and acceptance to that part of yourself.
To tap into this greater awareness, the next time you find yourself experiencing a painful emotion, try asking yourself the following questions:
Am I trying to understand this pain or am I just hoping it will go away?
Is it possible for me to soften into this experience and simply be present with it?
Where in my physical body am I experiencing this emotion? Can I breath into these sensations and let them begin to speak to me?
What is this emotion here to show me? (Now with this question it’s important to know that the answers may not come right away. Often the noise of our emotions tends to drown out the soft whispers of intuition, making it difficult to understand our experience until it’s in hindsight. But for now, try simply asking the question and seeing how things shift when you start treating your emotions as a teacher.)
As always, be gentle with yourself and enjoy the journey inward.
Lots of love,